EP 61: What If Your Entire Life Follows One Thought?

Thoughts Create Emotions And Bodies

SPEAKER_01 0:00

As much as we want to master our emotions and how we act in the world by sheer will, will is important, grit is important, but we have to master the thoughts first with baby steps. Because if we don't master those thoughts through baby steps, then we are just a result of all that has happened to us. And it even starts in the womb, right? Um, some people, you know, their parents maybe were drinking when they were in the womb or they were fighting a lot. All of these things are part of what's creating those cells, that fetus that eventually becomes a human being.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

Because the fetus can literally feel what's around them.

Trauma Starts Early And Sticks

Severe Depression And The Wall

SPEAKER_01 0:46

100%. And everything that we are is energy. And it doesn't have to be woo, for example. It literally is energy, right? You know that when you consume food, they call calories energy. So everything is energy, and we start by being a particle, and eventually we become these extraordinary human beings. But in the meantime, while we are becoming this human that we are, there were thoughts that were put into that process. And it even starts why why are you here? Well, at some point you had a male and female that had thoughts about each other, right? Let's we can make it very practical. And those thoughts created chemical reactions in them of excitement, of interest, of love. These became strong emotions, they came together and they procreated more extraordinary, beautiful life. But it did start with a thought. And so everything does start with a thought and it does physiologically affect the body. We can talk about that it's a chemical reaction, and we can look at the practical side of it. So there's never anything that anyone does in life that did not stem from a thought. And even when we look at trauma, for example, one may say, well, you're you're carrying all that trauma in your body, and that is true. But how can we remove the trauma from the body? We have to start with the thought and the acknowledgement that, hey, I experienced this trauma. Now I have to decide: am I going to be that person that for the rest of my life is the result of my trauma? Or am I going to look at what were those initial little thoughts that were implanted in me from it could be before birth or after birth that are not serving me, that are creating those feelings of anxiety or of life is not worth living. So there is that part of the thought process. And diving a little bit more into that because I think it's so important, especially for the work that you do, of when a person gets to a point of depression that literally there was no more desire. There was no brain chemistry that helped them to keep holding on and living. We have to address not only the thoughts, but we also have to address the physical body, right? We have to um tackle our traumas from all areas. So mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. And if we neglect one, especially when there's something severe, this is when we don't stand a chance. Sometimes when the trauma is very severe, where it's to that point of suicidal tendencies or a depression that's so severe that keeps people hiding at home and not living life, we have to use all of the tools at our disposal.

SPEAKER_00 4:00

Yeah, this is so good. I love the way you explain it because that's where I saw it. It was just so severe that any communication was kind of blocked. It was like a wall. I couldn't get through that wall. And that's why I'm I want people to not get that far, start noticing the signs before you that I nobody can almost reach you, it seems like. There was paranoia, there was uh more drugs, more of everything. And so I think he was just so depleted of that light inside him, and it made it really hard to reach. And I know it all started from avoidance and suppression of his childhood. You know, he I know he had shared a lot about his childhood and and had never wanted to address it. And so just becoming aware and wanting to see it, because oftentimes we just want to push it away. We don't we don't want to go there. And we think maybe if we push it away, it won't affect us. But what you're saying that it is in our body, and we almost have to dive deep, you know, like go scuba diving in the dark, dark ocean, and we have to go see it to get out back to the light, you know. We have to address it. And how do you how would you tell someone to address it? Because you don't want to relive these traumas. How would you say what do they need to do with it so it just doesn't affect their body in a toxic way anymore? How can they do that?

Kind Self Monitoring Beats Self Sabotage

SPEAKER_01 6:10

Well, the first thing that is essential for any of us to do is to be our number one fan, our number one self-observer, our number one stalker. What does it mean to be your number one fan? If you are somebody's fan, you are going to be rooting for them. And if you were the head of the fan club for yourself, you would be making sure that you do absolutely everything to make this extraordinary idol of yourself look great all the time, feel great all the time, make sure they have everything that they need to succeed, right? So we all live in a world with a lot of busy people. And most people have an extraordinary heart. They are very good and they're here to serve humanity. But most people are very, very busy, right? So we have to take the time to give ourselves the resources that we need to thrive and to be our best self. We need to observe ourselves all of the time. So if if we are realizing at some point in time, you're like, oh wow, I'm being very reactive. I'm being very snappy, I'm feeling really insecure, you know. I'm canceling appointments because I feel too insecure to go. I mean, this is what happens when people have severe anxiety and depression. You know, some of the people that you know that are always canceling, sometimes we think they're flaky. They might be suffering tremendous anxiety and depression. And maybe they actually really wanted to go and spend time with you, but they're they're just suffering so much that they keep canceling. Now, the world can help us, but we are the only ones that are with our own self all of the time. And we are the only ones that is with us from the time we have consciousness until the last moment of consciousness, at least in this physical body at this time for this lifetime. So we must constantly be stalking our thoughts. Stocking our thoughts is great, you know, you but you have to catch yourself, right? Every time you're canceling these appointments, every time you didn't show up for something that could really move the needle in your life and make your life better. It's important to that's where you take those deep dives and say, okay, I'm noticing this. How can I shift this thought process? How can I take the action even though I'm feeling insecure? Even though I'd rather go hide under the covers, even though I'd rather go home and just drink or take some, you know, sleeping pills. We have to observe ourselves all of the time. Number one is noticing, always noticing. But this is what's really important: noticing with kindness, noticing with sweetness, giving yourself ultimate radical self-acceptance, ultimate love, because no one else in the world can do that for you. And it's and it's not that the world doesn't want to. I'm sure all of us would love to spend our time rooting for everyone, loving everyone, building everyone up. It's a wonderful way to live, and it actually raises your serotonin and dopamine levels every time you do that. But again, we each have to take care of our own side of the street. We have to take care of these sacred vessels. So one of the things that really helps is number one, the observation of the thoughts, really noticing what thoughts am I having that make me do the things I want to do in life that I know are good for my life and for others. And what are the thoughts that I'm having that are interfering with me taking action to actually do something good for myself.

SPEAKER_00 9:49

No, like self sabotaging, right? Exactly. Self sabotaging. You know, a lot of people call it self sabotaging.