March 18, 2026

EP 53: Could You Use A Conversation With Your Mother?

EP 53: Could You Use A Conversation With Your Mother?
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Season 1

What does it take to rebuild your life more than once and still choose love every time? 

In this episode, Melissa sits down with her mom, Suzie, a bilingual trailblazer, retreat builder, and realtor who treats homes like havens and clients like family. Together they trace the story of their family from Quebec to Vancouver to Arizona and reflect on the moments that shaped resilience, faith, and the courage to begin again.

Suzie shares what it was like to arrive in a new country, learn English from scratch, and find creative ways to build opportunity without a safety net. She talks about creating a lakeside retreat where guests come to rest and reconnect, and how that same heart now guides her real estate work, helping families release the past and step into new seasons with clarity and peace.

The conversation moves through grief, forgiveness, and the small daily practices that keep life grounded. Melissa and Suzie reflect on prayer, gratitude, intention, and the quiet ways love shows up in everyday moments. 

If you are navigating change, loss, or a new beginning, this episode offers perspective, warmth, and a reminder that home is something you carry within you.

✨ About the Host & Ways to Work Together

Melissa-Sue Methven hosts Not Alone with Melissa-Sue Methven, and is an author, speaker, and breathwork facilitator guiding emotional, nervous-system, and spiritual healing. She uses storytelling, expert conversations, and lived experience to help people reconnect with their body, release stored emotions, and return to wholeness.

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00:00 - Welcoming Mom And Setting The Theme

02:30 - Grief, Arizona Move, And Safe Harbor

06:45 - Quebec To Vancouver: Learning English And Grit

12:30 - Making A Way: School, Work, And Perseverance

17:50 - Retreats, Hospitality, And Cooking With Love

23:00 - Real Estate As Healing And Vision

28:10 - Letting Go, Seasons, And Home Attachments

33:30 - Family Roots, Resilience, And Joyful Aging

39:00 - Faith, Forgiveness, And Leading With Love

44:30 - Gratitude Rituals And Everyday Wonder

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Welcome back to Not Alone.

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Today is a very special day.

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And I have a guest that is pure love.

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For the month of February, with Valentine's around the corner, I wanted the theme to be love.

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And then I thought, well, who would I have as a special guest?

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And this person here is all love.

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If you've met her, she is my mother.

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Susie Saint Cyr.

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She is such a light.

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Everyone who walks into a room next to her, they say, wow, she's so much joy, all love, unconditional love.

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And I have been blessed to call her my mother.

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And she has walked by my side unconditionally being that safe place, that safe person, also my best friend.

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And she has been so rooted in her faith and guidance for me and who created who I am, that foundation who I am today.

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So I'm honored to share who she is because she has a voice, she has a lot to share, and I always love our deep conversations together.

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So today I welcome my mother, Susie.

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Thank you so much, Minisa, for having me on your podcast.

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Yes, thank you for the wonderful introduction.

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Yes.

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Touch my heart.

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Well, it's all you always do.

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And she's also my biggest fan.

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I am a big fan.

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I listen to her and watch her on the big screen.

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All the time.

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And it's good because you give me some good feedback.

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And but most of all, how you've been such a foundation in where I'm at, because it wasn't easy to see me go through grief in the kids, and about how you were such that safe place, and how you, you know, you live with us now, you know, since we've been three years in Arizona.

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We have a beautiful casita, detached casita at our home where she's right there and could be so hands-on with me, my kids, and going through all these roll coasters of emotions.

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And but you know what, she's always so grounded in her love and stillness and peace.

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And I think that's really helped us along the way when we were navigating this grief.

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So I just um honor you and your strength and your love.

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I'd love for people to get to know you because you know they see this sweet grandma, this loving grandma.

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And by the way, she's like the best chef in the world.

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She does excellent French cooking, the best French onion soups, the best steaks.

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She's uh a fantastic, that's her love.

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But also, she has so many gifts from owning her own resorts, retreats, bed and breakfasts.

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And I know that's one of her dreams to continue owning a retreat one day treat center because that's her gift is hospitality and making people feel love.

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But tell people where you know where you're from, your background.

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Yes, um first of all, Melissa, I would like to say something to you.

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Um I would like to say to the whole and to everyone how much deeply grateful and incredibly proud of you, of your stand up, you know, you stand up strong and you show up every day, you know despair, you know, your tragedy and watching you, you know uh raising your kid, you know, with uh perseverance and uh also courage, you know, really, really inspire me.

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And my heart is so I have admiration for you.

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Your strength inspire me, your friends, your kids, and hold up, you know.

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The way you also the the way your strength and your determination, perseverance, you know, it's a grace, you know.

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And in hardship, you know, like the see you how you live.

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So I really want to tell you how much I'm proud of you.

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Well, thank you, mom.

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That means a lot.

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And uh, but you know where I got my strength from?

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Do you know?

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God, well, God, yeah, for sure.

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God, God knows, yes, God, absolutely, but God is in you, and you gave me that strength.

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You know, when I decided, oh, I'm going to move four months after I lost my husband to Arizona where I knew absolutely nobody.

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It was just a God wink, intuition.

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I followed this intuition.

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Arizona was on the map.

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Everybody asked, how you don't know anybody there, why Arizona, but it was just a calling, and I just dove right in.

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Well, you know what I kept on telling myself?

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Well, my mom, when I was six, seven years old, six years old, we lived in Quebec City, uh, Canada.

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We spoke only French.

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Only French.

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And my mom, for for me and for her well-being, she says, I'm going to move to Vancouver, British Columbia for a fresh start, a new environment, a safe environment.

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And she knew not one word of English.

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She, you know, the she just went for it as well.

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She just knew that's what the steps she needed to do.

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So here we go, move, just the two of us to Vancouver, British Columbia.

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These two little French-Canadian ladies.

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And it was not easy.

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It was not easy, but I was determined.

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I want you to have a good life.

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Not that you didn't have a good life in Quebec, but for me, it was a little bit narrow.

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So I always struggle in Quebec.

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I was managing, you know, restaurant and hotel and things like that.

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I was pretty young too.

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And uh, people coming from Toronto and everywhere and speaking English.

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And also uh in the family, we always travel in the US because we have family in New York.

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And there's that businessman coming to the restaurant and the lounge and asking me questions.

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And I know he was kind of interested, and I want to answer.

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And I said, I said to my friend, what is he say, what he said?

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And I said, that's it.

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That makes me a shift.

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I said, I don't want to ask people what he said, what he said.

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I want to answer myself.

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And I said, yes, we have to learn English, and I want you to learn English to open to the world, you know, to be able to speak two languages that open doors for you.

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Yeah, it's such a gift to be bilingual.

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It opens up such a whole different world out there.

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You know, I think it is important for people to learn a second language.

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And the opportunities since we yeah, we moved to Vancouver.

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I think of all the opportunities that I had because of that big move.

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So just knowing that, I was like, okay, my mom did that, and we didn't even know that language.

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So I kept on telling my kids, well, hey, at least we're moving somewhere where you still speak English.

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Yeah, you know, and it's like, well, my mom did it.

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So that gave me that strength, going, and you know what else?

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I said, my mom did it, and look what how I turned out.

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Because of course I was, oh, how is this gonna affect my kids?

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This is a lot of change again for them.

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And and I said, No, God is calling me there.

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There's a reason why I'm guided to come here.

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I have to trust that my kids will be look how I turned out because we moved, and you followed your intuition to move as well.

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Yes, and it wasn't easy, like you said, we we I know we we lived in a government housing and you worked, I don't know how many jobs and you went to business school at the same time.

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Business school, yes, because I really want to have my education, and I want you to have an education too.

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So I said, Well, I find a solution.

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A solution, I was managing the building where I live, so my rent was low.

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I was uh doing some uh volunteer at you uh.

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Yeah, because I want you put me in a nice private school, a nice school in the French private school.

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Because that was my plan right at the beginning when you're born.

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Okay, this is what I'm gonna do.

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I want her to speak other languages, I want her to be, you know, in private school.

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For me, it was like kind of a safe place for me, you know, because it has more structure and you know, like it's so that's uh that was a good thing.

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But you didn't put that a barrier where you're like, we don't have the money to pay for it.

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You found ways to do that.

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I found a way, and I said, I'm gonna do some that uh some voluntary at the school.

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So which I was doing that with cut the price a little bit, you know.

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And um working also in hospitality, you know, sometimes I could walk a couple of nights there, oh, raise a little bit more money, you know.

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So I found a way to go through that time.

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It was not easy, but by making action, I think you can go to where you want to go, you know.

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So that's my perseverance, and that you got that too.

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And I got that from my father, my mother.

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Very perseverant, very determinate.

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You know, they find solution, you know.

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Yeah, the hard hard worker.

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Hard worker.

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Oh, my mom was a very hard worker.

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She had a daycare.

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You know, sometimes we were like 12 kids in the house, and I said, okay, I need to help her.

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You know, I was the helper, you know.

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I love to help, you know.

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And uh to see you in that situation, I always, first of all, when you're born, I had a pack with God.

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I said, I will cherish and take care of that beautiful, precious daughter for the the rest of my life.

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That was the my promise to God, you know.

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And I said, whatever, I always say, because we were alone, you know, I raised Melissa as a single mother.

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And we have to be to each other, you know, always know where you were, you always knew where I was.

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So we have to work as a team.

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Yes.

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So right now that's almost the same thing.

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You know, we work as a team.

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You know, we work as a team, you know, you out, okay.

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I'm here, you know, I'm out, you there, you know.

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So we work as a team, and I try to explain that to my grandkid, my granddaughter.

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We we have to know where you are.

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Not because we want to control you, it's because we a team, we together.

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And if something I need your help, I need to reach out to you, you know, and you need help, you can come to us, you know, which is important for that.

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Yeah, good values that you instill so much in my kids, and it's so good that you you kind of ground them and remind them of the the value of family.

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And that's one thing that I miss so much when we moved to Vancouver.

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Yes, I'm the culture that was in Quebec, well, in our family especially, you know, we're so rooted in the faith and family values and a team and love and and helping each other.

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I really felt that and missed that a lot.

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So it was fun to I missed that too when I was in Vancouver.

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But so our family was like more friends, and you know, I work in an environment, ski resort, and things like that.

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So we were doing a lot of activity, but we still because then in Vancouver I grew up with a lot of the outdoors, which I love, very active.

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And my mom was always up for you know, all the plating, and we would go hiking.

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And you know, back then too, I was maybe 12 or something.

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She'd take me on this the chief.

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I remember this chief um six-hour hike and whatnot.

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I remember people eight years old.

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Eight years old.

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This is probably why I love hiking now, but I remember my mom's like, I could play the whole time, but once I got to the top, I saw how gorgeous that was.

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And still a big passion of mine now is to hike.

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So you instilled, you know, I feel um, you know, my background in Quebec is that the the grounded in the culture, the family, the roots.

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And then Vancouver really instilled the nature, the outdoors, being active, and so and and learning about so many different cultures.

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I remember growing up in my school, and Caucasian was a minority.

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So we had a lot of different cultures, a lot of different real and well, I went to uh Catholic school, but they it we had different backgrounds, and it was so we it opened my eyes to so many different cultures, was was great.

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I thought it was fantastic, yeah, and and there was no limitation, even though we were living in government housing.

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I was going to private school where parents are coming with their Porsche and all this stuff, but the nice thing with the uniform, you couldn't tell the difference.

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So that really didn't matter.

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I didn't feel out of place there, you know.

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Oh especially the school was a five-minute walk, you know.

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Which was really nice.

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That was very nice and safe.

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And safe, yeah.

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And then once you learned kind of English and you kind of grew in Vancouver, you created a lot of beautiful uh retreats.

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Like you had your bed and breakfast at Sakina League.

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Yes, Sakina League.

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First, uh, we uh in that time I was married and we invest uh land in Costa Rica.

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And in that time I was working as a conference manager at the executive in, and we had that land on Sacina League.

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And uh what happened?

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We lost the land in Costa Rica.

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But and I was working in the hospitality, I knew how to run a hotel and things like that.

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I said, that's it, you know.

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Okay, we lost that.

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We're not gonna cry and say, okay, maybe we we lost like some money, but we still have that.

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We can create what we want to do there.

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So that's what we did.

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We start with the small building, decks, and you know, we create.

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We have so much, I have so much imagination, you know.

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So, so, and we make it a beautiful retreat and resort.

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Like the people can come by float plane, could come by boat, and it was water access.

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Yeah, it was the most beautiful place.

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It was beautiful, yeah.

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Sakana magical and very hill.

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And you host weddings there, you used to do weddings, different events.

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Yeah, weddings, our birthday party.

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I was doing private dinner too.

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For we have 300 cabins on the lake.

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So people will come and say, we have family coming, so we like you to make a dinner.

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So I will make dinner for 20 people.

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Yeah, because when you cook, it's all love.

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It's so funny because we can't see it's a lot of butter, a ton of butter.

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I think we go through like packs of butter, the groceries.

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I think about 10 a week.

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I don't know.

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But then I look at my mom, I'm like, oh, she's so tiny.

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Obviously, this kind of butter, it must be all the love she pours into it.

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So we don't we don't hold on to that butter.

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It tastes good, it tastes really good, a lot of flavor, and that people feel that in the way you cook and host and come in.

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And I felt with Sacchinolake, the retreat there.

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That's what you you could feel that when we walked in there, and every guest really did.

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And then, and then once you guys sold that and moved to Kelowna, then you had your Ben and Breakfast and retreat there too.

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First of all we we went travel for almost, you know, here we went to Quebec for two months because I didn't see my family for a long time because I was so busy and you came and everything.

00:16:57.679 --> 00:17:03.919
And uh that was my dream because we used to go camping, you know, in the late 80s.

00:17:04.079 --> 00:17:11.119
We used to go camping in Kelowna, and I loved the warm and you know the lake and it was peaceful.

00:17:11.359 --> 00:17:15.440
And I said, I think one place I want to live now, it's in Kelowna.

00:17:16.000 --> 00:17:25.519
So we we went there, we sold our furniture, we just kept, you know, uh things our belonging in uh storage.

00:17:25.599 --> 00:17:29.359
And we said, we're gonna look for a place, you know, and we're gonna fit it.

00:17:29.440 --> 00:17:34.640
First we rent and um and we were not walking really.

00:17:35.519 --> 00:17:39.920
So I said, Oh, we're still lying, we we cannot be tired, just like that.

00:17:40.000 --> 00:17:41.920
And I said, I have to be active.

00:17:42.160 --> 00:17:47.759
So I said, Well, okay, let's look for a house, and maybe we I'm gonna do the same.

00:17:47.839 --> 00:17:52.240
I did it once, I can do it second time and have more energy.

00:17:53.200 --> 00:17:56.960
So I decided we're looking for a house, and it was a beautiful house.

00:17:57.119 --> 00:18:03.200
What's more looking for the view and you know the surrounding and everything.

00:18:03.359 --> 00:18:08.480
So we found a house which um uh we have to renovate.

00:18:08.640 --> 00:18:13.680
And but I saw the vision, I saw what I can do with it, the potential.

00:18:13.759 --> 00:18:25.920
You so there was I want a house with a pool, but there was no pool, but it was the land, I want the fruit trees, and you know, I knew what I want, and uh and so that's what I found.

00:18:26.000 --> 00:18:31.759
And we decided to build a pool and we have rooms and everything, and I opened all the chateaux du like.

00:18:32.079 --> 00:18:33.359
Yeah, I love to be loved.

00:18:33.759 --> 00:18:38.559
It was a beautiful place surrounding with maybe 12 wineries.

00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:40.640
So the people love it.

00:18:40.960 --> 00:18:43.039
It was beautiful, and I think that's your gift.

00:18:43.119 --> 00:19:06.160
It's like you know, because now you are a realtor, I you know, and I'm a realtor in Arizona, and a lot of times you help people from Canada if they want to look in places for here or working, you're able to work alongside with other realtors as a reference as well for somebody that's looking to have maybe a vacation home here and come with snowbirds, you know, up in Arizona.

00:19:06.400 --> 00:19:16.720
But your gift is you can look at a house and see, okay, this is not my ideal, but you're so good and visual and seeing, well, this is what you can do, yes, uh, this is what you can change.

00:19:16.880 --> 00:19:18.720
So don't let it be that barrier.

00:19:18.799 --> 00:19:30.240
It's not exactly the house you want, but you're able to help people visualize and make it like their own and you know, fill their soul in that house.

00:19:30.400 --> 00:19:38.319
And first I will uh I will really connect with them, you know, and be very authentic and transparent, you know.

00:19:38.640 --> 00:19:45.680
To be transparent with the realtor, you can feel what you really want, what your family went, you know.

00:19:46.400 --> 00:19:49.039
That will fill up your heart and dreams.

00:19:49.359 --> 00:19:52.799
And uh there is a way to do things, you know.

00:19:52.880 --> 00:19:55.599
You know, sometimes, okay, we need money, we need this.

00:19:56.319 --> 00:20:01.599
But uh it is a way, you know, and a plan that you can do to have what you want.

00:20:01.920 --> 00:20:16.799
So you kind of help release these fears, these losses, we can do it just, you know, like we have to have a strategy, you know, say so that's the way I think you can get what you want.

00:20:16.960 --> 00:20:17.359
Yeah, you know.

00:20:17.759 --> 00:20:31.279
Which I think that's so important because I think there's a lot of when people are either selling their home or they're looking for a home, there's fear plays a role in so much in what they're looking for, or or maybe losing the house they really wanted.

00:20:31.519 --> 00:20:43.039
And so I think having you to keep checking in on them and and grounded in what their dream is, is so important when it comes to a realtor.

00:20:43.519 --> 00:20:55.359
And that's what makes you so different, and because you release that fear and you say you have to really feel it when you walk into the house and let go too.

00:20:55.759 --> 00:20:57.440
People want to sell their house.

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Sometimes there's so much emotion in the house.

00:21:00.640 --> 00:21:05.039
And I understand that, you know, because I've been there, you know, like leaving Sekina.

00:21:05.440 --> 00:21:07.839
But when I made my decision, I let it go.

00:21:08.000 --> 00:21:11.440
And I said for something new, a new season.

00:21:11.680 --> 00:21:12.640
That's exciting.

00:21:12.880 --> 00:21:15.279
A new season, you know, in your life.

00:21:15.359 --> 00:21:22.960
Because in a life, there is season and there's spring, summer, fall, winter, you know.

00:21:23.279 --> 00:21:26.559
Because there's there's so much attachment to that home, right?

00:21:27.119 --> 00:21:32.400
Especially if people were there and raised their kids, and there's the memories that it holds there.

00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:38.079
So letting go of all that, sometimes it's like, oh, letting, but the memories will always be there.

00:21:38.240 --> 00:21:41.039
The memory always in your heart, in your soul.

00:21:41.279 --> 00:21:45.279
Yeah, so it's not in the physical house, you know, it's in your soul.

00:21:45.519 --> 00:21:49.119
So I think that's so, and people love you because you're so intentional.

00:21:49.200 --> 00:21:59.680
I mean, I think you're so she's been helping my friend look for a house, and she'll have just in case they find the house they love, she has a cooler with champagne ready and water or all the water when it's on.

00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:10.319
110, you know, outside, you know, to make sure, because if we're visiting like 10 houses, you know, of course you're gonna be thirsty or hungry.

00:22:11.039 --> 00:22:14.319
So I make sure, you know, they're gonna have that.

00:22:14.480 --> 00:22:22.240
So because we're gonna be busy looking for hours and a pad and a pen, you know, to take notes.

00:22:22.559 --> 00:22:26.160
Make sure you take notes and take a picture because you don't remember.

00:22:26.319 --> 00:22:27.200
Oh, what house?

00:22:27.440 --> 00:22:28.720
What house I visit?

00:22:28.799 --> 00:22:30.319
Did I have a bat there?

00:22:30.480 --> 00:22:37.039
You know, so it's just a reminder for them, you know, tools to uh well that's the thing.

00:22:37.200 --> 00:22:43.440
Since you are all love, you bring in love into the process of you know, seeing home.

00:22:43.519 --> 00:22:49.920
And you're so passionate, you love looking at different homes, and I get excited.

00:22:50.079 --> 00:22:56.960
It's like me buying the home, you know, because that's oh, this is so much potential in that house, you know.

00:22:57.119 --> 00:23:04.720
So that's why I think yeah, it is it's your passion and you love it, and it's it's where you need to be, you know.

00:23:04.799 --> 00:23:13.359
And I know you've always talked about a dream about opening up another boutique hotel, and and that dream will happen.

00:23:13.920 --> 00:23:14.640
It will happen.

00:23:14.799 --> 00:23:18.880
It's happening because I'm I'm putting seed everywhere, you know.

00:23:19.039 --> 00:23:23.440
The whole those little seed, it takes time, you know, to grow.

00:23:23.920 --> 00:23:26.160
So that's what I'm doing right now.

00:23:26.319 --> 00:23:31.359
You know, what you do behind the scene, sometimes people don't see it, yeah.

00:23:31.599 --> 00:23:34.559
But I know, you know, and you know, you know me.

00:23:34.720 --> 00:23:36.319
Like people say, oh, you're gonna be tired.

00:23:37.680 --> 00:23:38.240
We'll see.

00:23:38.480 --> 00:23:39.440
I used to create.

00:23:39.680 --> 00:23:41.279
Yeah, I love create.

00:23:41.359 --> 00:23:51.039
I have a big imagination, and uh, you know, that's what life is about, you know, and I love to leave a legacy, you know.

00:23:51.200 --> 00:24:00.319
My legacy is really about love, forgiveness, value, family, family, you know, and acceptance.

00:24:00.640 --> 00:24:06.240
You know, you have to accept, you know, people, human beings, where they went through, you know.

00:24:06.400 --> 00:24:12.079
Even you have somebody on the street, you know, and you see on the street.

00:24:12.960 --> 00:24:18.960
The judgment, you know, I see more when I look at them, I see them like a little baby.

00:24:19.279 --> 00:24:21.440
And I say, What happened?

00:24:22.079 --> 00:24:24.799
What happened at that little angel?

00:24:25.759 --> 00:24:26.319
It's there.

00:24:26.960 --> 00:24:28.880
We know like a tragedy.

00:24:29.200 --> 00:24:32.079
Sometimes you can go this way or this way.

00:24:33.839 --> 00:24:37.599
So you took it this way, and I'm so thankful.

00:24:37.839 --> 00:24:41.039
You know, thank thankful that you choose that.

00:24:41.279 --> 00:24:54.000
And what's your thought as to how can people you know choose, keep choosing that direction in in instead of uh taking the the uh the other corner, you know?

00:24:54.160 --> 00:24:55.200
What do you feel?

00:24:55.519 --> 00:25:04.000
I think uh first of all to believe to uh faith, faith will uh uh uh change your direction.

00:25:04.240 --> 00:25:08.480
Because when you have faith, God will show you the way.

00:25:08.720 --> 00:25:10.000
He will show you the way.

00:25:10.319 --> 00:25:11.839
You say try with letter things.

00:25:12.079 --> 00:25:14.400
Sometimes I say to friends, what about try with this?

00:25:14.480 --> 00:25:15.839
You know, ask, ask.

00:25:15.920 --> 00:25:18.000
If you don't ask, you don't have.

00:25:18.400 --> 00:25:25.039
Like if I have something difficult, you know, of course, that was hard, you know, to see you so in pain.

00:25:25.359 --> 00:25:35.359
So it was painful to see the kid, you know, it was like the wave going, like a um tsunami, you know, like sometimes I will calm.

00:25:36.559 --> 00:25:43.440
Wow, I was praying just to help them to have like a calm, you know, peace.

00:25:44.319 --> 00:25:46.799
So, you know, because it's a tragedy.

00:25:47.119 --> 00:25:56.319
But uh what I would say is um help, you know, like people to help those people to see by you action.

00:25:56.640 --> 00:26:06.480
You know, if you live by you action, you know, with love and everything, people around you see how you live, and they want that.

00:26:06.799 --> 00:26:08.079
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:26:09.359 --> 00:26:10.480
What example, yeah.

00:26:10.640 --> 00:26:19.440
I mean, uh for you too, you've been such a great example to lead with love no matter what uh circumstances, and always just love.

00:26:19.599 --> 00:26:26.640
Like, for example, when we teach our kids if they're having conflict, it's always don't don't go with revenge, right?

00:26:26.960 --> 00:26:35.279
You just gotta just send them love and pray for them and and forgiveness, which you've had to do a lot of that yourself, you know.

00:26:35.680 --> 00:26:56.880
A lot of forgiveness, you know, because things happen, you know, people hurt you, people who are hurt hurt people, you know, like uh um so what to me to be in peace and release, you know, resentment, you know, uh it's to forgive.

00:26:57.519 --> 00:26:58.799
There's no other way.

00:26:59.519 --> 00:27:01.359
No other way to forgive.

00:27:01.519 --> 00:27:05.200
And forgive with your heart, not you know, really with your heart.

00:27:05.440 --> 00:27:21.440
And forgive yourself, and forgive myself, you know, not feel guilty, you know, because of course, you know, like I was a 20, 21 years old, you know, as I became a mother, and I was the biggest gift of my life, you know.

00:27:21.519 --> 00:27:24.079
You are the biggest gift of my art.

00:27:24.640 --> 00:27:30.000
And also with the grandkids, too, you know, so they are a gift.

00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:32.160
So that's the way.

00:27:32.400 --> 00:27:32.799
That's the way.

00:27:33.039 --> 00:27:35.200
Did you always feel so different when you were young?

00:27:35.440 --> 00:27:39.680
Because you grew up, you had uh you guys were five, right?

00:27:39.920 --> 00:27:40.480
Yeah, four.

00:27:40.640 --> 00:27:41.599
Four, four, sorry.

00:27:41.839 --> 00:27:42.319
Four.

00:27:42.559 --> 00:27:47.599
And so did you always feel kind of different or see life differently?

00:27:47.839 --> 00:27:48.720
Oh, I see.

00:27:48.880 --> 00:27:55.519
When I was young, I was like very bubble, you know, I was excited for life, you know.

00:27:55.839 --> 00:27:59.279
And I see the world very, well, that's it.

00:27:59.359 --> 00:28:03.920
I will I want to travel, I want to do this, I want to do that.

00:28:04.319 --> 00:28:10.240
And uh as a kid, you know, um, I was not a revenge person.

00:28:10.799 --> 00:28:17.119
It's like in the I knew even when I was young, you know, like uh I was a giver.

00:28:17.279 --> 00:28:19.359
I love to give, you know.

00:28:19.599 --> 00:28:22.960
Um sometimes I would not understand why people fight.

00:28:23.119 --> 00:28:24.000
I said, why?

00:28:24.160 --> 00:28:25.200
Where's love?

00:28:25.519 --> 00:28:26.079
I don't know.

00:28:26.240 --> 00:28:34.559
I could I was like uh feeling a little bit stressed when people fight, you know, my soul is kind of shaky.

00:28:34.720 --> 00:28:49.200
So I have a hard time to be around, you know, fight and so um like when I was young, it it's just sometimes I I knew I was going on my pillow and I have a hope.

00:28:49.440 --> 00:28:51.759
I said I can do this, I can do that.

00:28:51.920 --> 00:28:54.000
Now it's I don't know.

00:28:54.240 --> 00:29:10.240
I um even I have uh hard time sometimes when I was in my teen, you know, to see uh around me and things happening and and I want to learn, you know, where where is love?

00:29:10.559 --> 00:29:11.680
Where is love?

00:29:12.079 --> 00:29:15.599
You know, but that was love, but very passionate.

00:29:15.839 --> 00:29:16.559
Yes, yes.

00:29:17.519 --> 00:29:34.559
But do you find love oftentimes love is there when you build it within and you self-love and your self-worth, then it you kind of um attract that mirror, you know, once you have that self-love.

00:29:35.039 --> 00:29:36.480
Yeah, self-esteem, self-esteem.

00:29:36.640 --> 00:29:38.240
Yeah, self-esteem, self-love.

00:29:38.559 --> 00:29:39.440
Yeah, yeah.

00:29:39.839 --> 00:29:44.799
I think when I was young, you know, I was not uh completely self-esteem.

00:29:45.119 --> 00:29:53.200
My self-esteem was maybe, you know, like I don't know if I can do this, I can do that, even I have a lot of big dreams and everything.

00:29:53.519 --> 00:29:59.599
But I think uh with resilience and determination, I say, I can do that, you know.

00:29:59.839 --> 00:30:06.400
So you always have fear, especially we came in Quebec, but I was born in Quebec.

00:30:06.480 --> 00:30:10.559
My dad is from the Caribbean, my mother French Canadian.

00:30:10.880 --> 00:30:19.599
We we were um you know the first almost black family in in the community.

00:30:20.079 --> 00:30:23.759
So of course it was like some bully and everything.

00:30:23.920 --> 00:30:32.319
So I saw my my sister, my brother coming back from school crying, you know, because you know, we were different.

00:30:32.799 --> 00:30:41.519
And I was thinking of myself, when I go to school and I I want to make it different, you know.

00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:50.480
I decide, I made the decision to not be a victim of that and use it because sometimes they will say names to me.

00:30:50.640 --> 00:30:51.680
And I said, really?

00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:54.960
I think I was white.

00:30:55.359 --> 00:31:04.880
You know, like I for me and uh and my team, it like make me like different, and I use it as a positive.

00:31:05.519 --> 00:31:10.720
Yeah, so and I love it, and I will not take that away.

00:31:11.200 --> 00:31:16.480
Okay, in that time that was hard to see your sister, your brother, even me.

00:31:16.559 --> 00:31:20.799
I know I've been but I said, Yeah, I didn't want to be a virgin.

00:31:21.119 --> 00:31:22.480
Yeah, so that's for sure.

00:31:22.640 --> 00:31:25.599
So you didn't let it attach to you, you just kind of like deflected it.

00:31:25.680 --> 00:31:32.319
You're like, okay, okay, I am different, but I love it, and I'm and I love it, and that made me do things in my team.

00:31:32.480 --> 00:31:36.000
They will pick me because I was in minority.

00:31:36.480 --> 00:31:41.680
So, like I was doing fashion shows and things like that because I was in minority.

00:31:42.000 --> 00:31:44.319
So that that was positive for me.

00:31:44.640 --> 00:31:47.119
Because you shifted your shifted, yeah.

00:31:47.359 --> 00:31:48.720
I didn't want to be the victim.

00:31:49.359 --> 00:31:51.119
I don't want to be the victim.

00:31:51.519 --> 00:31:52.079
I like that.

00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:52.559
I like that.

00:31:52.880 --> 00:31:53.839
I have to be strong.

00:31:54.000 --> 00:32:03.119
It's like fight fighting, you know, because people, you know, uh, and it's just like uh they don't know better, you know.

00:32:03.279 --> 00:32:04.880
If they know better, they do better.

00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:05.920
You know, yeah.

00:32:06.160 --> 00:32:07.440
So but they didn't know better.

00:32:07.519 --> 00:32:09.200
They were kids, you know.

00:32:09.440 --> 00:32:14.000
And it was like a strong community, you know, the French people and everything.

00:32:14.160 --> 00:32:24.880
And in that time in the 60s, in the 60s there was not a lot of open door for us, you know.

00:32:25.119 --> 00:32:30.400
But my dad was very determinate, and it didn't that didn't break him.

00:32:30.559 --> 00:32:31.440
That didn't break it.

00:32:31.519 --> 00:32:34.720
He still continued to do what he wants to do.

00:32:34.799 --> 00:32:37.200
Yeah, you know, and he's still doing it now.

00:32:37.759 --> 00:32:39.279
I know your dad's what 97?

00:32:39.680 --> 00:32:40.240
97.

00:32:40.559 --> 00:32:45.599
And your dad, you're always like, I've been trying to call my dad, and he's so busy he's about his dancing.

00:32:46.799 --> 00:32:53.119
He's dancing, and yesterday, finally I reached out to him and he was under the thing.

00:32:53.279 --> 00:32:56.240
I said, I thought was a little boy.

00:32:57.279 --> 00:33:00.480
Young man, I'm walking, but I'm doing my hair.

00:33:03.599 --> 00:33:08.319
He dances with the tangles, salsa salsa, how the Latin.

00:33:08.640 --> 00:33:10.559
Yeah, at least three times a week, right?

00:33:10.880 --> 00:33:11.759
Minimals to see.

00:33:12.079 --> 00:33:20.960
Minimals, and he's very much always, you know, your sister's there in the community, so always uh making sure you go family dinners and um family dinner is very important.

00:33:21.119 --> 00:33:25.839
My mom used to do a Sunday night, that was family dinner to who wanna come.

00:33:26.079 --> 00:33:33.519
Yes, you know, so that was uh very traditional to Christmas, Easter.

00:33:33.920 --> 00:33:34.799
It's always so big.

00:33:34.880 --> 00:33:37.200
That's why we've gone to Christmas the last.

00:33:37.279 --> 00:33:52.079
Well, we didn't go this Christmas, but for two years we did, and to show that to my kids, they had never been to Quebec City for Christmas, and to see uh how many family and their cousins and everyone French and we're staying up way too late and we dance and you know.

00:33:52.799 --> 00:33:53.599
We speak loud.

00:33:53.759 --> 00:33:56.400
Yeah, we speak loud and we're like, are they fighting?

00:33:56.480 --> 00:34:00.160
No, we're not fighting, we're just not fighting, we communicate.

00:34:01.759 --> 00:34:19.440
And it's just fun to my aunt, you know, there's lots of snow, and she's like, oh, before Christmas Day, and she's hosting and she decides to create this great big sledding hill in her backyard, and she has a black eye trying to try and go down, and I mean, she's got full of energy and full of love too, and that's that's our family.

00:34:19.599 --> 00:34:29.280
And I love sitting down with your dad, Ghee, and asking him, okay, what's his because his vitality for me, this is I want that vitality.

00:34:29.440 --> 00:34:30.559
I mean, your vitality.

00:34:30.719 --> 00:34:31.760
People look at you sometimes.

00:34:31.840 --> 00:34:33.360
You have more energy than I do, you know.

00:34:33.519 --> 00:34:34.559
I learned from him.

00:34:34.880 --> 00:34:37.840
From him, and just the way he he's so proud.

00:34:37.920 --> 00:34:57.440
He's always, you know, dressed up and and the way he eats slowly, and he says while he does his morning prayer and forgiveness, and just really rooted in his foundation, his values, you know, families, faith, his health, though, too.

00:34:57.519 --> 00:34:58.719
I mean, he's always been active.

00:34:58.800 --> 00:34:58.960
I think.

00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:00.320
Yeah.

00:35:00.559 --> 00:35:08.480
His thoughts, yeah, mindful of his thoughts, thinking more positively and more uh just never limited.

00:35:08.559 --> 00:35:14.880
I mean, being the only almost only interracial, interracial uh family in Quebec City.

00:35:14.960 --> 00:35:17.599
He was from move 24 from Haiti.

00:35:18.000 --> 00:35:18.719
He was 22.

00:35:18.960 --> 00:35:19.360
23.

00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:19.920
22.

00:35:20.159 --> 00:35:28.559
And I married a French-Canadian woman, and it's but he was just he was still so in the community and never let it stop him.

00:35:28.800 --> 00:35:34.159
And um, he's written some books as well, and it's just a very interesting life.

00:35:34.239 --> 00:35:38.719
But if you look back at his family heritage, I mean his dad was a dentist in Haiti, actually too.

00:35:39.119 --> 00:35:44.400
His dad was a dentist, and his mother was a pianist and also a nurse.

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But she moved, they moved to New York.

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In New York.

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And she's lived in France as well, and she's very strong, a long line of strong women.

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Definitely.

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My grandma, my two grandma, you know, and I remember my grandmother in New York.

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She opened a house for women, you know, who need help.

00:36:06.880 --> 00:36:07.760
That were abused, right?

00:36:07.920 --> 00:36:16.239
It was a and uh she was a teacher, a nurse, and very, very educated.

00:36:16.559 --> 00:36:20.320
Yeah, very educated for her, you know, that wasn't important.

00:36:20.559 --> 00:36:31.920
Yeah, so they didn't use that as a limitation, you know, even though they were, you know, born a very poor country and in whatnot, they saw no limits for them for their growth and what they wanted.

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And I think that's helpful for us, for our legacy as well.

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And so that's I think I'm that's why I'm so proud.

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So proud of our family.

00:36:41.519 --> 00:36:50.079
And a lot of it is I'd love to people to get to know who you are behind because behind the scene of all of this is that's the support that I have.

00:36:50.159 --> 00:36:52.960
There's no way I would have been able to finish two books now.

00:36:53.280 --> 00:36:58.239
Oh, you know, have the podcast, work and do with the kids.

00:36:58.320 --> 00:37:09.280
I needed it needed partnership and help and having you in our home and have that foundation, instilling those, those, our core values with our kids.

00:37:09.440 --> 00:37:16.320
Those are planting those seeds that for their legacy, you know, and you've been such a foundation for that.

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And I'm so grateful because that's why I want to give you voice.

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Because in hearing you, it's always about love.

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You never say anything mean about anybody else, you always change a perspective.

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Yes.

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I I teach to act with love.

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If you act with love, you will receive love.

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Even if you don't, still act with love and it will shift.

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It will shift.

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Definitely.

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And forgiveness, kindness, it's easy.

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You're on the street, you see a older person, just a smile at an act of love.

00:37:52.559 --> 00:37:53.679
It's kindness, yeah.

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Love is everything.

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Yeah, love is everything, it's everything.

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And and just also take care of our environment, you know, treat.

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And it's it's our love too, it's our God.

00:38:08.079 --> 00:38:10.400
Yeah, it's all creative of God, creative of God.

00:38:10.719 --> 00:38:14.719
So being respectful of be respectful, yeah, what we have.

00:38:14.800 --> 00:38:20.719
And and so I love, you know, for you, your routine to be so grounded in love.

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What do you do for you for me to stay grounded like that?

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And I pray a lot.

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You know, I get up in the morning, the first thing that I will do uh get a shower, get ready, and look in the mirror.

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I look at myself in the mirror and I pray.

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I light candles most of the time, you know, and I keep it like just like with harmony, because harmony is what keeps surrounding, you know.

00:38:48.960 --> 00:38:51.119
And I keep you grounded, you know.

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And if let's say you feel off, you know, sometimes you get off, you say, Oh, I feel a little bit uh nervous or off.

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I said, Oh, I know I forgot I back.

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And that's it, I have to be grateful.

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Because that's it.

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That's that's the secret, that's the recipe of happiness.

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To be grateful.

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Thank you, thank you.

00:39:18.239 --> 00:39:20.480
You can see, thank you for your skin.

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I am in a shower.

00:39:21.679 --> 00:39:23.760
I said, Oh, thank you for the hot water.

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Because uh many, many people don't have hot water, they don't have a clear water to wash.

00:39:31.760 --> 00:39:43.679
So this is like so I'm so grateful for that, you know, like to have that ice to see my beautiful daughter, to see you navigate that beautiful life.

00:39:43.840 --> 00:39:48.159
Yes, and it's it's a gift, hear the bird.

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Oh, I know.

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Hear the leave.

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Like I love just to go for a walk and just the leave.

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That's it.

00:39:55.119 --> 00:40:00.480
It's just so for me that make me grounded, that made me so in peace.

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That's it, be so grateful.

00:40:02.639 --> 00:40:04.960
Yeah, just pause and be grateful for all.

00:40:05.199 --> 00:40:09.760
That's why even when I walk the kids to school, that was one of the things I asked when I moved.

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You know, I said, I want to be able to walk everywhere.

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And I really and that I do, I walk everywhere.

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And so when I walk them to school, there's this one tree that we always pass and we hear this beautiful bird.

00:40:21.599 --> 00:40:23.280
So me and my kids just stop.

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We're like, oh look, listen, listen.

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And then you see the sun rising and all that.

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And I make them pause and notice these things because look how and then they kind of get annoyed with me because I'm all like, oh my gosh, it's another beautiful day.

00:40:36.320 --> 00:40:38.480
Because it's sunny every day.

00:40:44.719 --> 00:40:53.440
So grateful for the warmth and sun every day because you know even growing up in Vancouver, some I remember sometime 30 days of rain.

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No one would stop and it's that great.

00:40:55.280 --> 00:40:56.239
It's very hard for me.

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And and that's why actually I started working, I remember at 14 at Grouse Mountain.

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You know, what I loved about working there, you would get above the cloud.

00:41:08.559 --> 00:41:12.880
And beyond nature and being out in the fresh air, and that was so important.

00:41:13.119 --> 00:41:32.800
So I it's um I've realized when you are living in those places and you're not seeing how important it is to just really uh find ways to bring in more light or find ways to really uh uh when you feel depleted or maybe taking trips.

00:41:32.880 --> 00:41:40.079
I mean, I noticed when we would go away and find go trips where sunny destination, we would all fill back up our immune system and everything.

00:41:40.400 --> 00:41:49.920
So uh I've realized that if you're feeling kind of stuck and you're like, okay, these winters are getting long, trust me, I did the best move I ever did was coming move here.

00:41:50.000 --> 00:41:51.440
And people are like, how can you handle the heat?

00:41:51.519 --> 00:41:53.280
I'm like, well, it's easy drive.

00:41:53.679 --> 00:41:58.079
Yeah, 10 and a bum.

00:41:58.400 --> 00:42:07.599
That's a little much, but the the good thing we can drive out of the heat, you know, and we drive to California, we drive even to Flagstaff.

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So, and it's beautiful here.

00:42:09.840 --> 00:42:14.320
So I'd really encourage anyone if they're they're feeling like, okay, this is a little much for me.

00:42:14.400 --> 00:42:15.920
So now I'd rather do the opposite.

00:42:16.079 --> 00:42:24.079
Okay, when I miss the snow and the ski, like next week, we're flying out to go find the snow and I come back in the sun and how important that is for us.

00:42:24.159 --> 00:42:40.159
And I and for uh for my family and for my own healing, when I was feeling so depleted, the sun played a major role in all that and and um and ground rooted in my faith and just your help and also your belief in me.

00:42:40.239 --> 00:42:47.119
I you always plant these little seed in so big all the time, and like, okay, okay, I'm not doing this for nothing.

00:42:47.199 --> 00:43:18.480
And you're like, oh, this is so good, and and you're I love that you watch almost all my episodes because I have a hard time watching them, but you give me little pointers, which is good, and I need to release that fear of watching because I feel I can learn so much by watching, and oh, if I'm saying too much, these like you know, these words that make no sense, and so I have to be mindful, and it's also allowing me to become a better communicator because as we know, communication is so important, right?

00:43:19.119 --> 00:43:23.760
In the way we use our words, the power words hold.

00:43:24.320 --> 00:43:38.880
And that's why love for you, your words are always singing with love, and how we have to be really pausing and even me doing these podcasts now.

00:43:39.039 --> 00:43:40.159
What am I sharing out there?

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Is it gonna create fear or is it gonna create uh love?

00:43:44.800 --> 00:43:58.800
And so I'm really trying to be mindful of the words that I'm using and what I'm sharing because what the intention the intention is the intention that people want to receive you know what you share is so amazing.

00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:12.159
People, you're not a doctor, but I said I would go to you because I believe why you your knowledge because you get knowledge from everywhere.

00:44:12.400 --> 00:44:12.639
Oh, yeah.

00:44:12.880 --> 00:44:20.159
Lots of doctors, lots of dentists, lots of businessmen, uh woman, yeah, not just men and women.

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And uh I think it's like the the school of life because I'm so curious about life.

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I'm so curious to uh just I and I also I want people to live with vitality and love.

00:44:34.320 --> 00:44:38.639
And so that's why every guest is so intentional, and that's why today you're here.

00:44:38.880 --> 00:44:40.400
So I'd love for people.

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If they I wanted to reach out to you and they're like, okay, I'm ready for more sunshine.

00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:46.800
I'm coming to Arizona.

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I love to have a people, lots of Canadians come here, you know, own a piece of property or investment property.

00:44:54.400 --> 00:44:55.519
But right now it's growing so much.

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Open a vacation rental.

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I'm here.

00:44:58.559 --> 00:45:00.079
Yes, property management.

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You are you would be the best because I remember you had your own cleaning team, you had so anyone to manage, you have a vacation rental and you're kind of having a hard time finding people, manage it.

00:45:11.679 --> 00:45:13.760
You put in so much heart into that.

00:45:13.920 --> 00:45:31.360
So we'll put in the foot footnotes all your information, how they can get hold of you, because I think you are so neat out there and you are so different than a lot of the realtors out there because they're it's a saturated, you know, there's just a lot.

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So people get confused of who to pick.

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And like even for me, when I moved here, I was like, I don't know.

00:45:36.480 --> 00:46:03.440
But you pour in love and tension, my intention it's about love and what they want, fill up their soul, you know, what the family and you understand the grieving period that happens when you like go of a place or the anxiety or the fear, because you've been through it, you've been through it, and it's a lot of fear, and what if, and what but if you don't do it, you're gonna say, Okay, I never did it.

00:46:03.519 --> 00:46:07.119
So, but if you do or you might lose the house that you really wanted, right?

00:46:07.519 --> 00:46:08.239
That's great, yeah.

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You might lose it.

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So you need somebody to help you stay grounded, uh feel almost like you're holding their hand with love, like and light, and you're like, it's gonna be okay.

00:46:19.119 --> 00:46:20.159
That will be okay.

00:46:20.320 --> 00:46:27.039
And and you're gonna figure out the what's next if you believe, you gotta believe too, right?

00:46:27.280 --> 00:46:35.280
Yeah, you have to believe, you know, that uh you can do it, you know, and do step by step one day at a time.

00:46:35.360 --> 00:46:46.639
Yeah, you know, it doesn't have to be just everything in one day because it takes time, you know, application to to find you know the right house.

00:46:46.800 --> 00:46:52.320
Sometimes you can get it right now, or you can maybe it will be in six months or two months.

00:46:52.800 --> 00:46:53.440
It will come up.

00:46:53.679 --> 00:46:54.400
It will come up, yeah.

00:46:54.639 --> 00:46:56.480
It will come up for you because it's there for you.

00:46:56.639 --> 00:46:57.199
It's there, yeah.

00:46:57.280 --> 00:46:58.079
Start visualizing it.

00:46:58.400 --> 00:46:59.519
Visualize what you want.

00:46:59.679 --> 00:47:08.159
Even the you visualize, you take a picture of your house, and you want the people that you want in your house.

00:47:08.400 --> 00:47:11.679
You wrote a letter to them, you know, to either buyer.

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I want a buyer with a family, they feel loved, they feel, you know, uh they'll dream out, and they're gonna say that they feel it, you know.

00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:29.119
So I think that's I love that you're doing that with your clients, is writing it out because words hold power.

00:47:29.280 --> 00:47:33.760
So the more you speak it, when I write it, I almost manifest things.

00:47:33.920 --> 00:47:36.880
And that's why writing books are just so healing for me.

00:47:36.960 --> 00:47:45.599
And when I write my in my journal, these I am or in what I want to manifest, if I say it and I write it, it it comes true.

00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:46.239
It's there.

00:47:46.320 --> 00:47:46.880
Yeah, it's there.

00:47:47.039 --> 00:47:53.119
It's like my friends are having a restaurant for sale right now in Canada, and I thought, take a picture, Evan.

00:47:53.440 --> 00:47:55.679
I took a picture of a restaurant and I put soul.

00:47:55.920 --> 00:47:57.679
Yes, so what's the name of the restaurant again?

00:47:57.760 --> 00:47:58.719
Uh convivia business.

00:47:58.960 --> 00:48:00.719
Convivia Soyuz uh Colonna.

00:48:01.039 --> 00:48:02.400
Anyone looking to Soyuz fruits?

00:48:02.800 --> 00:48:06.320
Five minutes from the border, it's beautiful, and it's beautiful.

00:48:06.559 --> 00:48:15.280
And I I put it, I took a picture, I put soul and one in French, Vendu, so that she can visualize.

00:48:15.840 --> 00:48:17.360
Because you know, they'd like to retire.

00:48:17.440 --> 00:48:19.119
I mean, they built something so beautiful there.

00:48:19.280 --> 00:48:20.239
I love that restaurant.

00:48:20.719 --> 00:48:23.519
But now it's time for them to just enjoy life and travel.

00:48:23.760 --> 00:48:28.239
And so they will find the perfect buyer, and it's such a special place.

00:48:28.639 --> 00:48:30.400
Uh well, thank you so much, mama.

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I love you.

00:48:31.519 --> 00:48:34.400
And I'm sure we'll have my mom back again.

00:48:34.559 --> 00:48:43.440
And if you're uh please subscribe and like because this is how I can plant seeds globally of light and love.

00:48:43.760 --> 00:49:00.239
So please subscribe, share this episode if this truly resonates with you, and if you want more love into your life and or you're looking for a house in in Arizona, please reach out to my mom, Susie Saint Sear.

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I'll put it all in the show notes underneath your information.

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And God bless.

00:49:06.639 --> 00:49:08.159
Thank you for having me.

00:49:08.719 --> 00:49:09.199
Thank you so much.

00:49:09.440 --> 00:49:10.000
You're welcome, mom.