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Welcome to Nut Alone, Melissa Sue Methfin.
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Today's episode, I have a very special guest.
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She is my daughter, my light, my teacher, Sophia Methfin.
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She is here.
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And I'm calling this episode is kind of a weekly check-in.
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Oftentimes, as parents, we're so busy, so busy work with kids, sporting events.
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And what I found in my own healing is finding more stillness.
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It's okay to remove things out of my list to do.
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Oftentimes we feel that overwhelm.
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And then we're a little short with our kids.
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We don't have the patience.
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We're completely exhausted and depleted.
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So I've had to learn to how to navigate that, being a single mom of two.
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And so what I found is having these check-ins and also being able to say, you know what?
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I messed up too.
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I mess up as a mother, as an adult, and apologizing to my kids, saying, you know what?
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I didn't say that in very nice tone.
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And I'm really sorry.
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Oh, I didn't control my emotions there.
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And this is not how I should have reacted.
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And this has been really positive, and I don't do it all the time, but I'm still working on it.
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So this is kind of a check-in with my daughter, a communication, opening up that space that is so important with uh the relationship with your kids.
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Because I find the more that I spend time, for me, I wake up early, at least an hour before my children do, so that I can sit in prayer.
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For me, I sit with God, I do some breath work, journaling, meditation, because in that stillness, I can hear clearly.
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And that's so important as I lead my life and trusting God's path, the next step.
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So if I never find that stillness, just wake up, my alarm, make lunches, get the kids ready, and then the day is gone.
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By the time bedtime rolls around, I'm depleted, exhausted, go to sleep, sleep.
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So I never have time for God.
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So finding that stillness, even if that's a nap, sometimes we feel guilty.
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Oh, I have all this to do.
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And just to lay down, we feel guilty because we live in a society, it's like we're trying to keep up, keep up with the neighbor, keep up comparing.
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Oh my gosh, they have accomplished it, accomplished that.
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But actually, you are accomplishing so much in stillness.
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That's how you can hear, that's your heart, your purpose, the next level, and you gotta teach that to your kids.
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That it's okay to not have plans every single day to fill up your calendar.
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It's okay to slow down.
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So I have to be mindful what I'm trying to teach my children as well, as they know I have boundaries to have time alone, time and myself.
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But it's all balancing act.
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Most importantly, is the time that I can spend with each child and connecting.
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So today I'm here asking some real raw questions from 11-year-old in her perspective.
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So, welcome, Sophia.
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Thank you.
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Yeah, I'm so honored, and I know for you, communication, you're such a great communicator, and that's a great outlet.
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So today I'd love to just connect with you and check in.
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Yes.
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Check in on as a mom with their their daughter.
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How can I be there for you?
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Like, what's the best way you feel loved by me?
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Um, I I just like how having community, like just it might not even be like going places, maybe just like go swimming in the pool or something like that, like, or like just like watching a show or something like that.
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Or if we do go, we could go to like a restaurant and just talk.
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That's just like something that I feel that just really resonates with me, and then it like we can just communicate.
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Communicate, yeah.
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Just allow for me, probably you want me to listen, right?
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What's on your heart?
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Yeah, and I feel you are very open with me, and I love that you tell me everything, right?
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Yeah, I hope so.
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I come home from school, I'm like, guess what just happened?
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Like, I tell you all the drama, spill the tea.
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And then what's on your heart, and I really honor that, and I hope we always have that.
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That you can you're not afraid to tell me anything, even the good, the bad, because I want you to know that I'm always gonna be there for you.
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Yes, and there's no judgment.
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Yeah, and um, so I have a few questions that I know that this okay.
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So, what are little ways I can show up for you more?
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Like when you're having a hard day, like how how can I really show up with you?
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Sometimes coming for lunch is kind of fun.
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Like at school, I just get to sit outside with you and just chat.
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That's really fun.
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Or like come homing, come home from school, and there's just like we can go swimming, like, oh, let's go do an activity together.
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Sometimes I'm like, no, I don't want to go for a bike ride, but like um, I definitely love swimming, so like swimming is a big thing.
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Yeah, so maybe more as a parent, kind of doing things that you want to do.
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It's because sometimes I'm like, oh, let's go for a hike, let's go for a bike ride, and but that's something I like to do, not so much you.
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I respect that you like to do that.
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So sometimes I like to come, but sometimes I'm like, oh, why?
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But that's also because I know how much nature is so healing, so that's kind of why I want to do it for you guys too.
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But um even going to like a little, like what is that hike that we went on with the little river?
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Oh, up in uh Payson?
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In Payson.
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In Payson, oh yes, it was like a trail, but then we take a different way and you go up to the river, and there's like raspberries, and there's it's so nice.
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That's was probably my favorite hike.
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Yeah, so I do like those moments together.
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Now, as a parent, you know, we get on a get busy and we get kind of overwhelmed at times.
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How does that affect you?
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How do you think then because like children like we're like you know how dogs um they take on people's like stress?
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Like if I have tons of stress, my dog will take half of it.
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So um it kind of adds like kind of a little stress on me, but then at the same time, I'm just kind of sometimes you can feel it, right?
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I can feel I can feel you're all like you're so stressed, attuned to me, right?
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Yeah, yes, so you can't.
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But I feel it, so then it kind of adds on to me, and then like it's like whoa, I need to do this, I need to do this, and then like all rushes through my head.
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Yes, yeah.
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So I add my overwhelm onto you, and then it just kind of spirals.
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It just like goes around the whole house.
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The whole house, yeah, the whole energy.
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And I have to be so mindful of that, and the reminders too.
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And I do love that you do remind me sometimes.
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You're like, mom, okay, don't be so mean, or that's too much.
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You keep saying all these things, and I'm just getting really overwhelmed.
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And I like that kids can, you know, kind of call you out on it because we need that reminder sometimes in a respectful way, of course, you know.
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Sometimes respectful way, yes.
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And so, you know, one thing that we love to check in on, you often talk about friendships, you know, and I think as an adult, we still deal with friendships and how we choose our friends.
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And so I know this is a topic that's been kind of hard for you, you know, going through different friendships and moving different places.
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So what have you learned since we've been here for three years?
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Trying to make new friendships.
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Like, tell me how you chose friends when you initially got here to how you choose friends now.
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Okay, well, when we first moved here, I feel like with myself, I really am pretty good at making friends.
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Like, I show up at a place that I don't even know people, and I'm just like, hey, like I talk to them and like I want to know more about them.
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It's like one of those silly questions.
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Like, I always think like how Buddy the Elf and answers the phone.
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Hi, what's your favorite color?
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Like, you are a social butterfly.
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I like to ask those questions, like, what's your favorite color, favorite animal?
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You're trying to connect with people, yeah.
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And then some people are just like, you don't need to know all this about me.
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But like, I think I have the joy of Buddy the Elf.
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I like that.
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I do like Buddy the Elf too.
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Okay, I I find maybe this is I'm wrong, because you're such a social butterfly.
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Sometimes being alone has been uncomfortable, right?
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And well, sometimes I feel like I don't have friends, but then like once I show up to school, I'm like, oh, that's my friend.
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Wait, no, she's my friend too.
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So then like I feel like sometimes I feel like a I tell myself that I don't, but like I do have friends and I have tons of them.
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Yes.
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And so it's like and Why do you think you do that?
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Why do you think sometimes you're like, I don't have friends?
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Is it because the friendships that you have you feel are not aligned?
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We don't like clip, like it's like I can hang out with them at school.
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Like it's the difference between school friends and like um friends that like actually like respect you and come to they come and like if you're like same I have a friend that um comes to my comes um and supports me and she uh always does stuff with me and we are like the closest friends.
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Yeah, she she supports you, she's your cheerleader, she you know brings out the best in it.
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And I can't, but the thing is I always have to remember that I can't just steal all of that from her.
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I have to give back too.
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Because if she cheers me on and cheers me on and cheers me on, then but for my for me, I sometimes I like to I feel bad.
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Like I'm like, oh, I get to do these fun stuff, but then like she can't come sometimes she can't come along, so then I feel bad.
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And I'm like, oh maybe I shouldn't do this, or and but then I know that she will always be happy for me because she is a great friend.
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Yeah, so that's important to choose friends that will not be kind of jealous.
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You kind of you won't want to put yourself being back to being small.
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You have to they will bring out the best in you too, because I find sometimes when you didn't like to be alone, you just want to fill your time with friendships that may not be aligned for you in the most positive way.
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When I had I had one friendship that just didn't really work out for me.
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There was just some things that just kind of told my like God was just like, hey, maybe a little break.
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So I took a break, but then that was like the person I hanged out with a lot before um my friend moved here.
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And um I was like, okay, well, what am I gonna do now?
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Um, so I just went quick and I was like, oh, this person like sh she can come over really quick.
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I can like bike and bike to places with her.
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And I just like just wanted to hang out with somebody so bad that like it just like I became somebody that I didn't even know.
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Like I just it was like, oh, well, I know I knew it was a little bit more.
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But at the same time, what we have to learn as adults, and when we see that there's a falling out in a relationship, instead of having those hard conversations, say, hey, I'm feeling a little there's something off, or there's having those hard conversations.
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I know myself, I just retreat.
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I'm like, ooh, conflict, conflict.
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I kind of retreat.
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I'm like, I just won't text, I won't call.
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Like, leave the whole relationship, but that's not the right way to go about it.
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Yeah, God wants us to communicate.
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Communicate, shine them love.
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And oftentimes it's hard to sit and have those conversations because you you think it's gonna hurt them.
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And but you have to understand it's your boundaries.
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Like if they keep passing your boundaries, you have to have a point that you're just saying, hey, I don't but you can't just say get mad at them for doing it because they don't even know what they're doing is wrong.
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Even if you think they do, they might not.
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So you have to go to them and say, Hey, I don't really like what you're doing, and explain to them what that is.
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And then and if it doesn't work, you just have to tell them, hey, like it just doesn't align with me.
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So I just want a little break, like just like two weeks or something like that, and then maybe we can reflect on this and then come back.
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Yeah, or maybe, yeah, reflect on it.
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But in that reflection, how cool would it be if you're like both let's just pray on it?
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Yeah, let's both each pray to each other to allow more love in, send in love to each other, and then meet back again and sit together and talk over it, saying how we can mend this relationship, or just and if it's uh you know, if there's a growth period together, then great.
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And if it's okay, we need a little bit more space, but always just praying with love for them.
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I think that's really important.
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How you explain it to me is when um we we pray for them, and when we always like like when you're having difficulties with a friend or even like a family member, it can be anybody, you have to like you pray for them and imagine them like in that situation, like if you didn't know what you were doing wrong, what would you do?
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Like you have to you have to do something and uh something that I saw um W, I think it was it was what would Jesus do?
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And then it was like in like a shorter version, like W W Yeah, exactly.
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So if we always ask, what would Jesus do?
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How would he handle this?
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And it's always with love.
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Yeah, right?
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Love always heals.
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Yes, yeah.
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Yes.
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And so going with a loving heart.
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So I think that's just one thing that you need that people uh normally don't do.
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They just want to ghost them and just say, like, hey, I just don't like this.
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Like they won't even like talk to them, I'd just say, we're not friends anymore.
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Like Yeah.
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And do you find sometimes the conflict probably happens with our own expectations of our friends?
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Because then right?
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We might say, like, okay, um, I want her to do this and this and this, but then that's not them.
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You have to make sure that they know that you they want they want you want them to know that you can you always want to be their friend and that you want to hold on to that friendship and never let it go.
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And that you will respect them and you will have um friendship with them and that you that you can just like talk to them about anything and that you can be f like open.
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Yes.
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And I think communication, sending them love, and I love the thing, like every kid should do this.
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What would Jesus do?
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Right?
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So lead more with that.
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Okay, so talking about since we're talking about God, okay, when you pray, what do you usually talk to God about?
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Probably about like just like like on my daily prayer, like just to give me protection and and forgiveness.
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And probably I usually say just like to like bless the food that I eat.
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Like how my mom tells me every single time that I eat, she's like, We should bless the food that we eat.
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Like she's in the kitchen.
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It's important to bless our food because it brings in light, and thank God that we have this beautiful food.
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Just like yesterday, I was eating my mac and cheese very peacefully, peacefully with my friend, and she goes, Bless the food, wait, what's the food?
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And I'm like, Okay, mom, I already took a bite, it's good.
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Okay, and also I've been trying to incorporate uh a new kind of start of the morning.
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You know, I I I like to start new turgen.
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I don't like, you know, TV, tablet, because we're on break right now.
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So I for me, I like my spiritual practice at least an hour in the morning is so important.
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And so it is for my kids too.
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So I now told them, I've asked them just to get up and first thing they do, open the Bible, whatever page is calling them, and read, read a verse.
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You know, bring in God, or they could just sit in prayer or just sit outside.
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Just like some things that we do at my school, like um, we well, we used to do it in like fourth grade, and we did some of it in fifth grade, but um memorizing verses.
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That's what we used to do.
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Well, what was your favorite one?
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You said it in the car on the way here.
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Um okay, so my favorite vo verse is um Matthew 5, 16.
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It says, Um, Jesus tells his followers, in the same way, let your light shine before others that they may see your good deeds and glorify the Father in heaven.
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Yeah, I like that because I always think about you, Sophia, and a lot of people, you are such a light, and I feel you are such a giver and giver and giver.
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How I got that verse is very fun because um my teacher in fifth grade, she um was like the best teacher ever.
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But I have a lot of my favorite teachers.
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I have one in Alaska, and um she was like the best teacher, and then I have my fourth grade teacher and my fifth grade teacher, but my fifth grade teacher, she had bees all over the room, yellow, and was very happy.
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And um she had this um this on her wall, she had it said uh it said Matthew 5 16, it said, Let your light shine.
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And we would listen to this one song, your um let your light shine, or like light shine bright or something like that.
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Yeah, it was light shine bright, and it was one thing it would um that I confused me for a little bit.
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It said like third let this we should make this third rock glow.
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But um she told us about it at the end of the year, which means the third rock is Earth, the third um like planet, um, and we want to make it shine with God's glory and God's light.
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And so, um and we want to be the salt in because if ever you want to be the salt in the earth, the different like person.
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Because everyone, let's just say everyone's like the same, just all sugar, but then you want to be that one speck of salt that can change the whole thing just to like spread it around.
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Spread around, shine your light.
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Add a little more taste to the food.
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I like that, and you definitely are, and you are such a light.
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But what do I say also to you?
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Because some remember you called me.
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I was gone for a week, and you were having a really hard time.
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And so we talked in it.
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I think you give and give and give and give, and then you but you need a little break.
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Yeah.
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Well, you give back to yourself.
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Parents should sometimes for school.
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I understand some kids are like, there's a test today, we have to fake, like, we're sick.
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Like, come on, like, I'm sick.
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But um, I I think if you can actually tell that they're not feeling that great, you just have to say, like, okay, let's just take a break, and today we can just like let's do something.
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I call you a mental health day because you were really kind of needed to fill up your own bucket.
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So I asked you, what brings you joy?
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Like, what will fill you?
