The Hidden Weight of Manhood
Not Alone Podcast: Dr. Trevor Nichols on Burnout, Emotional Healing, and Airway Health
In a moving episode of Not Alone with Melissa Sue Methven, Dr. Trevor Nichols opened up about the emotional realities behind his success as an orthodontist, husband, and father. His vulnerable conversation shed light on the mental health struggles many men face—especially those in demanding healthcare professions.
Behind the Smile: A Life of Quiet Pressure
Dr. Nichols knew by age 10 that he wanted to be an orthodontist. He pursued that goal with impressive focus—graduating as valedictorian from ASU, serving as class president in dental school, and building a family while still in training. But behind every milestone was mounting pressure.
Like many healthcare providers, he faced unrealistic expectations and constant performance demands, eventually leading to emotional exhaustion. The relentless push for perfection, especially in dentistry, left little room for vulnerability or rest.
Mental Health in Dentistry: Breaking the Silence
One of the most eye-opening moments in the episode centered on the mental health crisis within the dental field. Dr. Nichols spoke openly about the profession’s high suicide rate, pointing to a combination of perfectionism, emotional isolation, and the weight of responsibility.
He shared a mantra that helps him reframe his daily challenges: “It’s our practice, not our perfect.”
This simple phrase serves as a daily reminder to embrace progress over perfection and offer himself more self-compassion.
Building Emotional Connection at Home
What truly set this episode apart was Dr. Nichols’ willingness to talk about his emotional growth—not just as a professional, but as a partner. He credited his wife for helping him heal through weekly check-ins—safe, judgment-free conversations where they discuss emotional struggles and challenges.
These intentional conversations not only deepened their connection but also gave him the space to feel seen.
His message to other men: Emotional intelligence is not a weakness. It’s a strength.
Airway Orthodontics: A New Lens on Children’s Health
Beyond emotional well-being, Dr. Nichols also discussed his professional passion: airway orthodontics. He explained how seemingly unrelated childhood issues—such as bedwetting, night terrors, or behavioral challenges—can often stem from airway obstructions rather than behavioral or psychological causes.
His advice to parents: Have your child evaluated by an airway orthodontist by age seven to catch potential issues early and support proper growth, development, and breathing.
A Four-Step Framework for Burned-Out Men
To men feeling emotionally depleted or stuck in survival mode, Dr. Nichols offered a grounded four-step strategy:
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Be honest – Acknowledge if your passion is fading or negativity is taking over.
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Talk to someone – Find a safe space to share.
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Take action – Even small steps make a difference.
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Stay consistent – Healing is a process, not a one-time fix.
For Dr. Nichols, that healing has involved daily movement, spiritual practices, and prioritizing joy and connection.
Healing Is Communal
The episode closed with a hopeful reminder: when one person does the inner work, the impact ripples outward. Healing doesn’t stop with you—it extends to your family, workplace, and community.
As Dr. Nichols put it, emotional healing isn’t just about survival. It’s about creating a healthier future—for yourself and everyone around you.
